Weekend Wisdom #004

The problem with always being the 'bigger' person is that you end up being surrounded by smaller people.


And ...


It's easy to keep someone happy when you have nothing to lose in doing so. But when someone else's happiness requires a sacrifice on your part, that's the test of how much that someone's happiness matters to you. Will you sacrifice something to make that person happy?

Or will you keep that person happy only on your own terms ... only when it is convenient for you to?


And ...


My feelings are MY feelings and I feel the way I feel. What YOU feel about the way I feel says something about YOU (possibly about US), but not about ME.

I am not selfish for feeling the way I feel. It's YOU that is selfish for expecting me to change the way I feel just so that it suits you better.


And ...


If your happiness lies in me doing something even though it hurts my feelings, then I will do it. Because I love you. But only when I see you that you appreciate my effort and acknowledge my hurt. When I find you brushing my hurt aside, you lose the right to demand my respect for you or for your feelings. You make me love you less. And someone who is loved less is someone who is not worth getting hurt over.